For those of you who have never experienced online dating, a little general introductory information is in order.
Dating sites all pretty much work the same way. Without becoming a member, you can search through profiles with minimal search criteria, usually as follows: I am a 'Man' looking for a 'Woman' between the ages of '21' and '35' within '50' miles of your zip code (or city).
A few sites will make you register just to search at all. You can
see a photo, an age, and a headline, sometimes a partial profile, one or
two even allow you to view the entire profile. We recommend Cupidsreviews for the best and complete source of date site reviews.
Registering means becoming a
member, which usually involves
creating a profile. Subscribing means that you are signing up
to be a paying member, which allows you more privileges. Most
sites will not allow a non-member to send emails to other users; if they
do, the number of emails allowed is limited.
Some users will
refer to another email address in their profile; this is not allowed,
but is gotten around in various ways, i.e., you can find me at 'iamhere'
at that yahoo place. You might also see 'I am not a member' in a
headline, which generally means 'Email me -- I can't email you'.
All sites differ on what is allowed
for free. The services may include the following:
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Winks (also called,
icebreakers, whispers, etc.) This is an initial foray/flirt
intended to show interest. Some sites will allow a non-member to
send an email reply to a wink.
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Hot Lists/Favorites
-- when you see a profile that interests you, you can add that profile
to your Hot List for future reference. You can specify in your
preferences whether or not you allow that profile to be informed when
you add them to your Hot List. If they are informed, it's sort of
a subtle/passive version of the wink.
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Emails -- usually
contained within the site. You can 'block' specified users from
emailing you.
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Extended search
functionality -- height, religion, you name it, you can narrow it down
exactly as you like it.
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Chat -- There are
chat rooms and then there is instant messaging.
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Voice Mails -- You
can record a voice mail greeting.
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Mobile Phone
Messaging (wireless) -- You can do searches from your mobile phone,
browse profiles and chat.
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Videos -- videos
can be created for your profile.
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Forums, community
areas, speed dating, travel groups, and site-sponsored face to face
meeting events.
On most of the mainstream dating sites,
obscene language is not allowed in profiles, nor are what might be
considered 'adult' profile photos. Some of the sites are very
strict. Some sites do not allow 'married' as a status.
Sending obscene messages or pressuring (stalking) another user, if
reported, will result in a cancellation of membership.
Prices range from $5.00 to $27 per month. Purchasing a several
month subscription will reduce that even further. (Look for prices
buried in the Help section.)
There are many wonderful, interesting and honest people online these
days. However, it is estimated that 1/3 of all users at singles
dating sites are married or otherwise committed, so be aware.
Also, there are some that I would call 'players'; maybe I'm wrong but
they're online year after year; some of them are almost constantly
online and have quite attractive photos. You gotta wonder.
Then there are those individuals who show up on several sites with different
ages and characteristics; same photo, though.
It is however, absolutely fascinating to read about so many people and
what they are like; it's obvious why it's become so popular. Have
fun!
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